If you interact with people at any level, there will be times that you will be misunderstood, misrepresented, and even maligned. Believe it or not, people will not always say nice things about you. Most likely, this revelation is not a surprise to you. As a younger man, I didn't always respond in the best fashion. It was easy to give in the temptation to join the other person in the gutter. That's often what they want you to do. But, as I remember my mom telling me, "Two wrongs don't make a right." So, what to do? Take the high road. Taking the high road means you won't wade into the sludge, slinging mud around. Taking the high road means that you won't shred the other person with the truth. Taking the high road means you won't feel the need to defend every misrepresentation or outright lie. Taking the…
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I was joking around with my youngest daughter earlier this week. OK, I thought I was joking around; she probably just thought I was being annoying. Two people looking at the same situation and seeing two different things ... Anyhow, at one point, she said to me, "You need to see a philanthropist." Before I started laughing, I readily agreed with her. "Yes, I do need to see a philanthropist." She then realized she had said the wrong word and tried to keep from laughing. It didn't work. "I mean to say, 'You need to see a therapist.'" "I probably need to see one of those, too. After I see the philanthropist."
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Enjoy this post from Henry Cloud. It helps you discern situations, relationships, and much more. ********** What habits, thoughts and actions must you put an end to, in order to achieve your goals in 2013? Here are some thoughts from Necessary Endings to help you answer this important question: 1. Determine whether a “season” has passed. Everything has a season. Remember CDs, cassettes, and phone books? They had their place and time, but their season has passed. And the truth is, no matter how wisely we invest in a product, strategy, person or even some relationships, eventually, the season for our investments come to an end. Endings are a natural part of the cycle of growth. I remember one support group I was in for several years that was life changing. But, years later, I was not in the same place, nor were they, and we all needed something different. It was…
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"I have no one else like him, who will show genuine concern for your welfare." -- Philippians 2:20 There was a time I thought about going into politics. But then I realized how often I would have to shower to try and keep the corruption at bay. I believe good people do go into politics. I also believe it's hard for good people to go into politics and stay good people. Most people enter public service with a desire to serve. After a while, the temptation to serve one's own interests over the interests of others begins to arise. At some point, it becomes more than a temptation; it becomes a way of life. But let's not be so hard on politicians. The same thing happens to school teachers, accountants, counselors, construction workers, and pastors. What causes this? Our sinful nature. Our sinful nature is not inclined towards sacrifice and…
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I'm surprised that more first-time parents don't get divorced over the choice of their newborn's name. When my wife was pregnant with our first child, we did the prerequisite purchasing of baby name books. "The Multicultural Guide to Naming Your Baby" was one of my personal favorites. We fairly quickly settled on a girl's name; but since we didn't know the gender of our baby, we went through the process of trying to choose a male name. Tonya used one color of highlighter and I had another. We would go through the book and highlight our favorite names. If the other person didn't like it, we would make a check next to it. We each had veto power. Since I love baseball, I tended to pick names that I thought would set up our potential new son for baseball success. Tonya veteod "Juan Hensley" although I thought it sounded like…
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