Imagine a giant 15,000-piece jigsaw puzzle in a big cardboard box. Now imagine a married couple locked up in a room together where the only way out is to solve this jigsaw puzzle without the box top. Without the box top, they won’t know what the finished puzzle is supposed to look like. Does it sound stressful, even impossible? I imagine it could possibly lead to murder! Unfortunately, many marriages are just like that – not murder, but the jigsaw puzzle. When Tonya and I got married, we each brought a variety of puzzle pieces into our marriage – ideas about how marriage works, who would do what, how to do holidays. Although we came from a similar background and upbringing, we still had work to do. Making it even more difficult is that we live in a culture that no longer agrees what the finished puzzle should look like. If…
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